A co-parenting situation can often be challenging, especially if there are deep rifts between the parents or if they have a significant difference in parenting styles or if they have a strained relationship. To create a stable and healthy environment for children, the parents should work together for their overall health.
What Is A Successful Co-Parenting?
The key to successful co-parenting is both parents actively taking part in the overall growth and development of children’s lives.
In essence, when you divorce, it is essential that you have a parenting arrangement and a plan that outlines how you plan to interact with your children post-divorce.
In this article, there are 5 best practices that can help you be a successful co-parent and relieve stress after your divorce.
1) Effective Co-parenting Depends On Cooperation
Positive co-parenting practice is committing to raising your children as best as you can together. Cooperation with your co-parent can, however, look different for different families in different situations. While some co-parents may be able to maintain a regular dialogue relating to co-parenting, others may need to step back from constant communication to focus solely on the children. Make the commitment to cooperate in upholding your child’s best interests wherever you are in your shared parenting relationship.
2) Formulate A Comprehensive Parenting Plan
Parenting plans are written documents that outline how a child will be raised by both parents after separation or divorce and are agreed upon by their respective spouses. The key to developing an ideal parenting plan is finding a balance between your child’s best interests, family life, and yourself.
You will be able to determine how much time your child will spend with you and your co-parent based on your parenting plan. Having a schedule that works for both you and your children is an important component of your parenting plan, so be sure to establish one and stick with it as it is a vital part of your parenting plan.
3) Expect Some Emotional Difficulties
When your child is with their other parent, you might feel a sense of loss, loneliness and disappointment. It can help to see this time as an opportunity. For example, time apart from your child can give you a chance to rest, relax and pursue relationships with family and friends.
Planning can help you cope when your child is away. You could arrange to do some exercise, see friends for a meal, visit family or see a movie.
If possible, agree in advance on the kind of contact you’ll have with your child while they’re with their other parent. For example, you might use phone calls, video calls, text messages, DMs or email. When you’re talking with your child, focus on them and try not to show how much you’re missing them.
4) Prioritize communication At All Times
An effective communication strategy is one of the basic rules of co-parenting. In order to do that, you need to be realistic about your own strengths and weaknesses. Communicate openly with your children about their welfare, regardless of what you decide. During these conversations, make sure that you don’t shut them down as a means of punishing your co-parent. Failing to share critical information about the children, is setting a bad example when they observe parents using “silent treatment” against one another.
When you’ve mastered co-parenting, periodically reevaluate your communication strategies. Assess whether you and your co-parent can communicate in person without upsetting one another.
5) Maintaining A Positive Outlook
Being positive and maintaining calm is difficult but of utmost importance during this phase of divorce, organizing schedules, and parenting plans, effectively communicating and practicing mutual respect for each other in co-parenting makes life a lot easier.
It is also a great idea to take some time for yourself during co-parenting. This can be achieved through positive self-talk, exercise, or a massage. Regardless of how your family dynamic has changed, you are still a valuable person and a responsible parent. In addition to the fact that self-care allows you to continue to engage with your children healthily, it is also good for your children to see you do something for yourself.
Contact Hussain Law for Divorce in Ontario
We understand that divorce and family law matters can be emotionally and financially taxing, and we strive to provide our clients with the support and guidance they need to navigate these difficult times. We are dedicated to advocating for our client’s rights and interests and will work tirelessly to achieve the best possible outcome in their case.
If you are in need of legal assistance with a divorce or family law matter, please do not hesitate to contact Ayesha Hussain for Divorce in Ontario at 647-428-3919. We are here to help you through this challenging time.