You are thinking that it may be time to tell your children about your plan to divorce, but the idea is greatly overwhelming. This may be the most difficult conversation you’ve had to have with them. How are you going to communicate the news in a way that is gentle? How are you going to protect them from the effect this news will have? When it is time to tell your children about divorce, there are ways you can do so that will be easier on your family. In this blog post we will go over 3 tips to help you handle this big step like a great parent would.

 

1. Plan Your Approach

Telling anyone about divorce is difficult. Your family and friends may be quick to form judgments about your decision. You may even fear that their opinions might reflect on your children. It is important to remember that divorce is a journey and as we grow and change, so do our relationships. Dealing with the end is an important part of human life. The sooner we normalize divorce the easier it will be to have conversations regarding the value of our decisions.

Before telling your children about your divorce think about how you’ll want to approach the conversation. Here are some pointers to steer you in the right direction:

  • Take time to reflect on your perspective, which might change depending on your situation
  • Help your children understand by explaining that divorce is common and that a part of life is accepting when things change and end
  • Create a space where an open conversation can be had, where everyone can share their feelings and their questions

 

2. Don’t Put Them In The Middle

When talking about good divorce parenting we often mention why it is harmful to put your children in the middle. It is important to avoid criticizing your ex in front of your child to protect them from extra stress and trust difficulties during an already turbulent time. If you are planning on telling your children about your divorce without your ex present, you may want to keep this importance in mind. Finding neutral ways to approach the topic is the best way to do so.

 

 

3. Prepare For Negative Reactions

Even though you may have already accepted the situation yourself, your children will need time and often space to do the same. If your child is under a lot of emotional stress they may act out in ways that you are not used to. It is important to allow them to process their emotions, and be there for them as they do. Remember that divorce is a scary thing for children to endure. They may not understand why its happening or how to process the changes that are about to happen.

Here are some things you can do to help:

  • Reassure your child that the divorce is not their fault
  • Take each day at a time and don’t blame them for their bad days
  • Encourage them to talk openly about their emotions
  • Make it clear that you are a support system for them

At Hussain Law we focus on helping our clients navigate the emotional and financial challenges of separation and divorce. Our office remains fully operational, and we have implemented various new procedures that allow us to continue to advise clients seamlessly during this time. If you have a family law issue that you need assistance with, please contact Ayesha Hussain at 647-428-3919.

 

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