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Is Social Media Ruining My Marriage?

Is Social Media Ruining My Marriage?

Social media has changed the way we operate in a multitude of ways. Bringing us a new approach to communication and forming relationships, helping us find valuable sources of information and discovering creative outlets are just some examples. Although it is a channel for many positive and innovative ways to stay connected, many of us have come to rely on it in a way that can be very stressful on our health. In some instances social media can become addictive and harmful to us, impeding on our relationships. In this article we share insight on why you may be blaming your marital issues on social media and what you can do about it.

1. Lack Of Balance

Having any balanced relationship relies on two individuals making time to understand each other’s needs and working together to fulfill them. Balance does not mean your marriage will be perfect. It means that when there is hardship, you have the emotional tools to mend the issue with your partner. Unfortunately, unhealthy use of social media can create a lack of stability in your marriage and it is important to look out for how this may be happening.

It is true that within our social culture, staying connected is important. For many of us, we view our social platforms as being free and always available. No one is managing our usage, like we often do with kids, so the way we make use of social media is entirely up to us. Abusing this freedom makes it difficult to create space for the other important parts of our days and can be damaging to our sense of time. Getting to a point where your relationship is balanced can be a difficult journey that takes willingness. If you or your spouse are struggling to control your social media use, try following these tips:

          • Redefine what social media means to you
          • Have a conversation about you and your partner’s needs
          • Work on your ability to have self control
          • Outline your goals and make active changes in your social media routine to achieve them

2. Increased Insecurity

Our capacity for viewing images on a daily basis has increased since visual advertisements began taking over every space around us. Usually, their purpose is to be relatable so that we can perceive products and services as parts of our lives. The same exchange happens when we overuse our favourite social platforms. Insecurity can form when we compare our lives to those we see online. Whether it’s our close friends or distant celebrities, what we are presented with is filtered and usually not real life. Constant comparison can negatively affect the way you perceive your own marriage. It is common to become jealous of other relationships when they appear to be perfect. Don’t forget that a strong marriage takes learning from both your good and bad moments.

When an individual is insecure about themselves, they lack the ability to find security in other parts of their life. They may become anxious about their relationship, their own confidence and current situation in comparison to those they see online. Unfortunately, social media is the perfect place to put on a mask and escape from reality, which is why we see an increase in it leading to infidelity.

3. What You Can Do

If you can tell that social media is negatively affecting your marriage, the first step is to have a conversation with your spouse about it. If this is a particularly difficult step, look into the advantages of meditation and consider how it can help. Otherwise, here are some ways you can begin tackling the problem:

        • Outline what you and your spouse are comfortable with and set boundaries
        • Try taking a social media break and come back when you feel ready
        • Focus on healthy self love routines rather than comparison
        • Tackle any underlying issues you may have with a professional (such as stress or depression)
        • Find ways to prioritize your time and limit procrastination

It is important to remember that although social media can often have negative effects on a relationship, it usually isn’t the entire reason for it’s downfall. If you’re experiencing troubles with your marriage, be open to taking a look at everything that is involved, because there are many factors that can result in a breakdown. Notice if either you or your partner are using it as a crutch for anxiety or other issues and try to tackle those first. The goal is to set boundaries, find balance, and to be more present with each other rather than online.

 


At Hussain Law we focus on helping our clients navigate the emotional and financial challenges of separation and divorce. Our office remains fully operational, and we have implemented various new procedures that allow us to continue to advise clients seamlessly during this time. If you have a family law issue that you need assistance with, please contact Ayesha Hussain at 647-428-3919.

5 Tips For Dating After Divorce

5 Tips For Dating After Divorce

Major life changes carry with them a lot of discovery. If you’re going through or have gone through divorce, you may be on a journey of discovering exactly what you want from life. Recognizing where you stand after separation, in terms of yourself and others, can be a confusing process. You may be having realizations about your personal values, dreams, beliefs, and needs that differ now from before. The reality is that big changes push people to uncover truths about themselves. Dating after divorce is not only about physically replacing a gap that was left. It is about discovering who you are now and finding a partner who will uplift this version of you with love and understanding. In this article we share 5 tips for dating after divorce so that you can overcome any divorce guilt you may have and start your journey towards love and fulfillment.

1. Define What “Relationship” Means For You

Our perceptions of what a good relationship is are often influenced by scenarios that aren’t our own. These include what society tells us is right, what is presented to us in the media and what we see in the relationships our friends and family have. When coming out of a divorce, it is important that we also take time to define what a relationship may mean for us, so that we don’t get stuck in old patterns. This can sometimes be a long process, but often benefits from a balance of perspectives.

For example, your loved ones may have an outside look on how you approach relationships. It can be valuable to speak with them about what they have noticed in your marriage to help you outline your current boundaries and needs. Although their opinions are important, remember that at the end of the day, only you can define your needs for yourself. If you are struggling to grasp where you stand after your divorce, consider speaking with a therapist to help you find healthy ways of coping with significant change.

2. Give Yourself Time To Grieve

Whether your divorce was long and highly traumatic or amicable and simple, grief will be a part of the process. You may be familiar with the stages of divorce grieving that include denial, fear, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It is important to allow yourself to naturally go through each of these steps, because the process will ensure that you are truly ready to move on. Reaching the acceptance stage in your grieving process is what you and your future partners need in order to begin and maintain healthy relationships. Divorce is painful and grieving doesn’t need to be done alone. Make sure you reach out and gather a stable support system while you grieve, because it will make all the difference.

3. Love Yourself First

If you have ever taken a trip by plane, you may recall the flight attendants guiding you through what to do incase of an emergency. The oxygen mask rule states that you must place the mask over your own mouth before assisting others. We know that following this rule is imperative, because an individual who falls unconscious will be unable to help those around them. Prioritizing your well-being first is always the best course of action.

The same rule should apply to dating. A healthy relationship relies on a balanced exchange of love and nurturing, so you must make sure you can provide yourself with these things first. Finding the emotional stability to love yourself first will ensure your success in dating after divorce.

4. Don’t Feel Pressured To Date

While you deal with grief and practice loving yourself after divorce, it may be best to wait on dating again. Having independence for the first time in a while can be a great way to regain a positive relationship with yourself. This period of time will allow you to find confidence and teach you to value yourself first. It is also important to remember that staying single after divorce offers many benefits. Although others may tell us otherwise, this is a time for you to find your own confidence and make that decision for yourself.

5. Have fun with it

After you have spent some time with yourself and your friends and family, you may feel that it is time for you to start dating after divorce. With confidence and a clear understanding of your values, needs and boundaries, you can have a successful, fresh start. This is a time for you to have fun, meet new people, form new friendships and regain your excitement for life.

Here are some ways you can get started on your new journey:

  • Treat yourself to new clothes or a haircut to make you feel fresh.
  • Try signing up for a class to acquire new skills or take up a hobby that can help you relate to different people you may meet.
  • Spend time in new areas to reconnect with your city. For example, try a new coffee shop, hiking trail, library or park.
  • Be open to new possibilities.

Dating after divorce is all about connecting with a new version of yourself and being ready to find a love that is right for you. When you are ready, you should feel fearless, excited and confident. If the divorce still seems to be riding on your shoulders, take a step back and give yourself some more time to grieve. There is no right time to start dating after divorce and it is never too late to find love. When we are our best selves in every way, positive relationships come naturally.


At Hussain Law we focus on helping our clients navigate the emotional and financial challenges of separation and divorce. Our office remains fully operational, and we have implemented various new procedures that allow us to continue to advise clients seamlessly during this time. If you have a family law issue that you need assistance with, please contact Ayesha Hussain at 647-428-3919.

Divorce Parenting And The Vaccine Passport

Divorce Parenting And The Vaccine Passport

Ontario has announced a vaccine passport system for non-essential businesses starting September 22, 2021. The certificate will be necessary to access public spaces such as indoor restaurants, gyms, movie theatres and concert venues. As the Delta variant continues to spread, the necessity to prevent a fourth COVID-19 wave increases.  

While the pandemic pushes us to change routines, many parents struggle to agree on what is the best way to protect their children. It is no surprise that divorce parenting disagreements will arise, especially during a time when global political conditions are changing so quickly. In this article we will guide you through what you need to know before having those inevitable conversations and how the mandatory vaccine passport might affect your situation.  

Dealing With Disagreement  

Considering the safety and wellbeing of your children is the most important part of parenting, so what happens when two parents disagree on what is considered safe? Divorce parenting through COVID disagreements can be a major challenge. If you are currently struggling to come to an agreement with your ex about how to manage co-parenting through COVID, here are some helpful things to keep in mind:  

        • Speak with your ex about what is best for your child given their specific lifestyle and situation. For example, if one or both of you live in a highly populated area and your child has weekly soccer practice, their needs may differ from those of a child who has less frequent exposure to others.
        • Small sacrifices go a long way. For example, if your ex prefers that you wear a double mask when dropping off your kids, doing so can ease a lot of tension and make communication easier.
        • Practice acceptance and be respectful. Everyone’s opinions come from their personal life experiences. Practicing acceptance does not mean that you need to approve an opinion you do not stand for, but rather that you accept the reality of something you may not be able to change. This process shows respect and can help you and your ex build the trust needed to co-parent well.

COVID Safety & Custody Issues  

As Ontario prioritizes the requirement for vaccination, it is becoming more clear that our current systems will soon rely on it. This reality may cause issues for parents and children who remain unvaccinated as the vaccine passports become a necessity. In regards to COVID and child custody, the court’s main objective is to review the needs of the child and push for their safety and wellbeing. While the government remains in consultation with the Chief Medical Officer of Health, judge’s will make decisions based on medical and scientific data. This will determine if the parent’s idea of COVID safety is healthy for the child.  

Judge’s may revoke custody or limit visitation to online contact based on the situation at hand. Although a judge cannot order a parent to get vaccinated, here are some reasons a custody order can change: 

        • If a party requires vaccination due to a health risk in the family  
        • Evidence is shown that a party is not following safe COVID protocols  
        • When the lack of a vaccine passport prevents the child from going to school 

How The Passport Could Help Parenting 

During divorce, when family time can seem like a fleeting activity, spending time with your kids is highly important. The reality is that an individual’s choice against the vaccine can severely limit the contact they have with their children. The vaccine passport allows entry into  restaurants, theatres, cinemas, event spaces, recreational facilities, and more. These spaces provide the ability for spending quality family time and can be a great way to help you parent throughout divorce. Considering the wellness of your children during COVID, being for the  vaccine passport may be in the best interest for you and your family during this time.  

Every family is different and making divorce parenting work for you will depend on your situation. Even through the stresses of divorce and COVID, it is important to prioritize healthy communication skills with your family in order to build trust, ease discomfort and maintain positive relationships. So, if the requirement for vaccine passports causes conflicts between you and your family, it is best to take some time and determine what to do based on the needs of you and your children. For more information about Ontario’s vaccination requirements click  here


At Hussain Law we focus on helping our clients navigate the emotional and financial challenges of separation and divorce. Our office remains fully operational, and we have implemented various new procedures that allow us to continue to advise clients seamlessly during this time. If you have a family law issue that you need assistance with, please contact Ayesha Hussain at  647-428-3919.

The Division of Family Property After Divorce In Ontario

The Division of Family Property After Divorce In Ontario

Once you and your spouse have decided to separate, it’s crucial that you also decide what will happen with your assets? Alongside the many questions you’re dealing with at the start of separation, figuring this out can be both emotional and stressful. It’s one of the most frequently asked divorce questions and often carries a lot of financial worry. You might have heard about Ontario requiring equal sharing of property within the Family Law Act. This can often be difficult to understand and raises questions about how assets will be divided fairly. In this article we explain how family property is divided after divorce, so you can get a better understanding of where your marital assets will go.

What Is Family Property?

In Ontario, any asset or property acquired during a marriage (meaning after the marriage date and before the date of separation) is considered family property. This includes all assets, joint bank accounts, debts, pensions, business property and real estate. To the court, marriage is an economic partnership and confirming your separation date is very important.

What Does Ontario Law Require?

The Family Law Act states that the division of family assets should be done equally. This does not mean that the property will be equally split, but rather that spouses will determine what they owe, based on equalization of net family property or NFP. This means that spouses will equally share what was earned during their marriage based on the NFP calculation. During the process each spouse is required to complete Form 13.1 in order to determine their NFP.

The calculation process goes as follows:

          • Value of assets and liabilities at the marriage date is calculated
          • Value of assets and liabilities at the separation date is calculated
          • Marriage date total is then subtracted from the separation date total to equal the NFP
          • Lower NFP is subtracted from the higher
          • The equalization payment is then determined by dividing the NFP difference by 2

The Matrimonial Home

The Family Law Act considers the matrimonial home differently and states that both spouses have equal access to it. This is because the home is usually considered the most valuable asset to the family and often holds a lot of emotional importance. The right of possession of the matrimonial home prevents one party from forcing the other out without a court order. If you and your spouse are disagreeing over who will continue to live in the home and cannot come to a decision, the court can make an “exclusive possession” order. Some of the factors considered when making the order include: the best interests of the child who will reside in the home, the financial situation of the spouse seeking possession, concern for family violence, and any existing property orders.

Dealing with family property division can be difficult, especially while the reality of the divorce may be causing grief, confusion and stress. When the process is complicated based on the specifics of one’s situation, an experienced family lawyer can help you through each step while also providing the understanding and support you need at this time. At the end of the day, make sure you are aware of your rights and what you should be enforcing so that you can positively move forward after divorce.


At Hussain Law we focus on helping our clients navigate the emotional and financial challenges of separation and divorce. Our office remains fully operational, and we have implemented various new procedures that allow us to continue to advise clients seamlessly during this time. If you have a family law issue that you need assistance with, please contact Ayesha Hussain at 647-428-3919.